Sober Living

I currently am 15 months sober from liquor which is something I never thought I would have to say.

The first 12 months were the hardest months of my life.

I had to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

I had to get comfortable with discomfort.

I had to relearn who I was as a sober individual.

I had to learn to be alone with myself and my thoughts.

I had to learn that it is okay to stay in on a friday and Saturday. Even if its every friday and Saturday night.

I had to learn how to show up for myself every day, instead of self medicating the pain away.

I had to learn how to handle going to parties and dealing with drunk people.

I had to learn my boundaries. When it is okay to surround myself with people who are drinking and when I need to be alone.

I had to loose friends and social confidence in order to find myself.

I had to learn that liquor is like poison to my soul.

I’m still learning how to be comfortable around liquor.

I’m still learning how to socialize and small talk with people without the help of liquor.

I’m still learning how to not run from my problems and face them head on.

I’m still learning how to live in this world that is very connected to drinking.

I’m still learning how to be 28 and sober from liquor.

I’m still learning. This is a never ending journey of being and becoming my most authentic self.

We learn the most about ourselves when we learn what makes us uncomfortable. Getting use to discomfort is all part of the growth.

I’m not fully sober I will admit. I still smoke weed, and up until recently I was okay with that. This new decade has definitely stirred something in me that I always new was there, but it seems that I wasn’t connecting fast enough to my authentic self that the universe had to push me to “awaken” as some would say.

I use to smoke weed only at night during the week and it would help take the pain from the day away and help me sleep peacefully without having to take anything to assist. If it was the weekend, there a good chance I smoked on and off all day long.

I’ve noticed in the last couple weeks that when I do smoke at night my mind goes very negative very fast. I debate every conversation, every interaction through my day as my heart also seems to beat faster. I haven’t smoked during the day, even on the weekend, for 3 weeks now. I have even skipped a few nights during the week as well.

I’ve been smoking weed longer than I had been drinking. I know I have no desire to smoke weed anymore because I can now see what it is doing to my mindset but the familiarity of weed like a friend you can turn to on a bad day is what I think is going to be the hardest part to give up.

This last year when I was around people who were drinking, I would smoke. It would make my interactions with them seem easier to a degree, but when I really think about it, I was always more in my head when I was high then present in the moment.

I am trying to live a more present life in every single way possible. So going forward I promise to live my most authentic life; being my true self, listening to my heart, my intuition, going with the moments life presents to me, being ok with anything life throws at me, not needing to escape from myself, and being one with the universe.

Going forward I am going to be a completely sober individual inside and out. Not needing anything to numb my pain or hide me from my truth. It has been over 15 years since I have lived without the need to self medicate in someway, 15 years that I have been putting something in my body that tells me I should feel different from what I should be feeling. 15 years since I had to listen to that voice inside my head and not be able to run from myself. 15 freaking years.

I am ready. I am ready to be Sober. I can do this, I can do anything I set my mind too. I am strong, I am a warrior!

What I’ve learned through 7 days of meditation

Today is day 7 of me actually sitting down to meditate. I’ve done 10 sessions over the last 7 days totaling to 140 minutes or 2 hours and 20 minutes. They ranged from breathing meditations, to laying down meditations and the last 2 days I’ve been doing manifestation meditations.

I have been trying to “meditate” going on two years now. Every therapy session I’d have, my therapist, always told me that was my next step to finding my peace and I continued to push it off. We even had one session where she insisted we sit and mediate to which I responded something along the lines of ” No offense, but I’m paying you to listen to me, not sit in silence”. Well we sat there for 5 minutes anyway and even in those short 5 minutes I could feel the relaxation come over me. That was 3 months ago. And every single therapy sessions she tells me ” Just do it” as if it were that simple, but really, I learned it is.

I have spent a lot money and time over the last 2 years on preparing myself for meditation. I’ve spent money on different meditation apps, salt lamps, I even bought a crystal to hold during mediation, though I couldn’t even tell you the name of the crystal, I choose my apartment a year and half ago due to nook that I believed would be the perfect meditation spot, I created said meditation spot in my apartment nook that just created wasted space because I wasn’t using it, I bought special pillows to sit on, I did everything you could possibly do to avoid doing the actual meditation.

Well I decided my therapist was right and I needed to “just do it”. In the last two weeks I have ended a toxic relationship, had a friend try to take advantage of me and I felt very hopeless and weak. This was the time to “Just do it”. I started with 10 minutes the first 3 days and noticed that by the time I was starting to feel very relaxed and connected , the mediation would end. So I am making an effort and making sure I have 20 minutes in my morning to sit and meditate. I’ve noticed with doing these meditations how in touch with myself I have become in just a few short days. I started a blog I’ve been dreaming about for over 2 years and I started a new company that I’ve been trying to put together in my mind for the last 2 years as well. All in the matter of 7 days. I own 2 websites now and hopefully a company ( I’m waiting to hear back from the state). I have a detailed plan of what I want my business to be and represent and I have no doubt I will achieve this. I found Wayne Dyer this week whose words have already transformed my life and will continue to help and inspire me on this journey

Everyday with meditation, I am setting an intention for my day. I have mantra’s I am repeating to myself and affirmations I am vocalizing as well. I’m making a conscious effort to only let the good into my life which means re-framing my mind to do only that. I must be conscious of every thought I let into my mind as it sends a vibration out into the world. I’m making a conscious effort to make a conscious effort to make my life all it is and can be.

Mediation has brought me here to this place today in just a short 7 days. But those 2 hours and 20 minutes that I let my brain relax from needing to have a thought, focused on accepting what came through my mind as well as setting my intentions for my day and life. That is 140 minutes that I didn’t have last week or last month That’s 140 minutes that I focused on myself and wasn’t on social media or watching t.v. Just look at all I’ve accomplished in a week, I think it speaks for itself.

“I am not who I think I am, I am not who you think I am, I am who you think I think I am”

With love,
Krista

How to know if your Maid is actually disinfecting your home and not just cleaning it

How do you know if your maid is disinfecting your home and not just making it look nice and clean? Because there is a huge difference!

There’s a great chance that they are only doing just that; making your home look nice and clean. I’ve worked with two different maid companies before branching off by myself, and I can say I’ve easily worked with over 40 different individuals. I can honestly say that I, just like these other individuals, weren’t taught how to properly sanitize your home, we are taught to make it look as nice as possible in as short of time.

The only way to know if your maid is properly disenfecting your home is to ask that individual. If you have hired a maid company, ask the maids as well as the owners on how they specifically sanitize and what chemicals they use. Make sure the answers line up.

Regardless if they say they sanitize or not, question them on what chemical they are using. In order to properly sanatize something, one must read the instructions per chemical, and do exactly as the bottle says. Seems easy enough right? I have yet to come across one person who uses ANY disinfecting chemical properly in a cleaning situation. Must chemicals will tell you to spray said area, saturate area and let sit for between 2-10 minutes. If you were looking just to make it look pretty, you spray and wipe right away.

I believe most maid companies do not follow these guidelines and steps as it would take to long to properly sanitize your home, and time is money on their eyes. Another reason is that a lot of people believe leaving a chemical sitting will ruin the appliance and/or area. And it most definitely can if not done properly or with the proper chemical.

But wouldn’t it be nice to know that at least your bathroom is sanitized? Watch the next time your maid comes into your home. Do they spray your toilet and immediately wipe it down or do they let it sit for a couple of minutes? With this being the dirtiest place in the house, I would make sure that at least your bathrooms, door knobs, and light switches are all properly sanitized.