Is it mindset or is it the past catching up?

I fully believe that everything happens for a reason. I believe that everything we do causes a reaction in the world. If we do something positive and with positive intention, it sends out good energy. If we do something bad or with bad intentions its putting out bad energy into the world. And whatever you put out into the world comes back to you, it may take days or years but it comes back. Essentially it’s what people call “Karma”.
I believe that it can take years for your life to even itself out to neutral grounds if that makes sense…if you were once “bad” it takes years for those consequences to play out but by living more intentially and by facing your past mistake life becomes easier and starts to work more in your favor. The better you are, the better your life becomes!

Which brings me to my current predicament. Out of the last 5 weeks or so this has been the week that’s made me question myself, my intentions, motives and thoughts the most. I fully believe what you think about determines your day and/or life.
But just because I believe that to be true doesn’t mean I don’t still fall into the negative trap of my own mind. And holy cow has my mind tried to go down the negative rabbit hole this week.

This week I’ve been experiencing heart palpitations and my heartbeat has been jumping up really high when I’m laying down for no reason at all. The heart palpitations and rapid heart beat has been going on for some time on and off but I’ve been doing some life changes that I thought would help decrease them. For example I thought smoking weed was making my heart beat very rapid but honestly I’m not so sure I’m convinced of that now. It’s been 9 days since I’ve consumed preworkout and any other caffeine besides my cup of coffee in the morning. I quit smoking (for the 100th time but the last time!) a month ago, I started working out again a month ago, started hot yoga almost 2 weeks ago, and I started meditating daily a month ago. I assumed by making these life changes, life would be better. And dont get me wrong it super is!!! I feel better than I have in literally YEARS! But there’s still part of me that wonders if I’m doing this to myself.

I had to go to a cardiologist 3 years ago because I was experiencing heart palpitations and a tight chest. My doctor ran some test and determined that it was mainly caused by anxiety but that I also do have a valve that doesn’t seem to get the proper blood flow but she insisted that it wouldn’t affect me till later on in life towards my 50′-60’s.

So now I’m wondering if this rapid heart beat and palpitations is from anxiety or if it could be something “worse”. It’s very nerve racking to be laying down and your normal heart rate that’s around 61 bpm jumps up to between 110 and 120 bpm.

But I’m finding myself doing the “what ifs” and when your stuck living in the “what ifs” your brain is in a negative mindset. So therefore of course what you are thinking is going to happen more. So I guess I’m just conflicted within myself because what if it could be something serious? Or nothing serious at all?

I went to my doctor yesterday and they are doing test next week to make sure but honestly it’s kind of making feel like a hypochondriac. And therefore I’m feeling more negative because I’m judging myself in such a way.

I wear a fitbit daily (not saying it completely accurate) but everytime I feel my heart beat increase it does indeed show up on my fitbit that way so I know its not just a figure of my imagination. My face use to literally go numb I was so anxious. I swear these days I hardly ever feel like I deal much with anxiety especially compared to “old Krista”. I’m generally am a pretty happy upbeat person who is physically active every single day and drinks more than half my body weight in water. But man did I have years of super bad caffeine abuse. And I mean BAD. Caffeine pills,1-2 red bulls, five hour energies, b12, extra large coffee ….in one day. Mostly within a few hours if not almost all at once.

I think this is where my worry is coming from because I know I had taken such bad care of my body. I’m 28 years old, I shouldn’t really being having these symptoms. But again the choices I made when I was living a super unhealthy lifestyle may catch up to me and maybe faster than I thought.

So I guess I’m just stuck with this mindset thing right now. Could I think only happy thoughts and it would stop? Am I being a hypochondriac? Am I doing to many thing at once causing me more anxiety than I realize? Am I literally causing my heart to be wacky because I’m thinking about it? Could it be years of my terrible caffeine abuse?

No matter how much you surround yourself with positivity, inspiration and motivational things its extremely easy to get sucked back into the negative mindset and go down the negative rabbit hole. This week was definitely a little reminder that just because your changing your life around doesn’t mean your past cant catch up to you. Just because your trying to be more postive doesnt mean life isn’t going to try and test you and see how you come out on the other side. So I guess I’m just really wondering at this point if it’s all mindset or if your past decisions really do dictate the rest of your life.

Becoming more than your diagnosis through Self Awareness

6 years ago my life changed forever. To be fair, 9 years ago is when my life actually changed forever after a traumatic event, but I was in denial and 6 years ago my denial and avoidance finally caught up to me.

6 years ago I found myself in inpatient for the first time and I was diagnosed with Bipolar 1, PTSD, GAD, Panic Disorder and OCD. Realistically speaking just one of these diagnosis (or any diagnosis) could change a person’s life and I was Diagnosed with 5 different mental disorders at once. On top of that I was diagnosed with Chiari Malformation of the brain within a month of those diagnosis. That was enough for me to loose any sense of who I was before this. I didnt just loose who I was before the diagnosis, I also believed that I was now my diagnosis. I believed I was mentally sick , I believed I wasn’t your typically “human” , I believed that this was my new life and I believed I could never be a “normal” functioning human being again.

To say this literally didn’t control my life would be understatement. It was my life. I believed that in order for those people in my life to understand me they would have to put it in the effort to understand my diagnosis and why I was the way I was and did the things I did. Not that I had to put in more effort, other people had to. I believed I had lost all control of my emotions. That it wasn’t me making these terrible decisions or hurting those around me who loved me and were just trying to help and understand me. I believed it was my mental illness causing all of this. I identified as my diagnosis. I became bipolar instead of having bipolar.

Do you see the difference in the framing of words?

I believe many people become their diagnosis. Whether it’s a mental or physical diagnosis, it inevitably changes most people’s lives.

I’m starting to see this everywhere. With the people I communicate with, family friends, clients, online forms, support groups etc people who have a “problem” become their problem.

In the last 10 years I have struggled with migraines, weight gain, weight loss, cyst on my ovaries, irregular menstrual cycle, arthritic like pain, lower back issues, neck pain, swelling of my limbs, mental health issues, heart problems, galbladder problems, shingles, kidney stones and that’s just off the top of my head. I believed that my body was always hurting and I had chronic pain. I would tell people I had chronic pain even if they didnt ask. I had the mentality that weird and/or bad things always happened to me, though my medical history does show that, I also believe it was because of the narrative I kept telling myself.

Studies show that many 26 year olds dont get shingles but here I am. Just because that happened doesn’t mean I am weird or my body hates me. It does remind me of how unhealthy of a lifestyle I was living. With self medicating to numb myself plus all the medication I was getting from my psychiatrist, neurologist, gastroenterologist there is no wonder I was a mess. I was taking so many medications that of course my body couldnt heal itself naturally the way our bodies our designed too. I couldn’t think straight or properly because of all the medications I was on to alter my thoughts and change my mood.

As a society we are way to comfortable with taking medications, mixing medications with alcohol or other addictive things, and assuming that a doctor really does know what’s best for us. Especially people who meet with a doctor once or twice for 20 minutes and assume that doctors knows all about them and their conditions. I’ve believed so many different things the doctors were telling me just because I felt validated in that there was actually something wrong with me. When in fact, I know myself more than those doctors know me and there’s something to be said for that. But only by becoming self aware was I able to come to this realization.

I am here to say that I believe that this all needs to change. If I listened to my doctors, I would still be a medicated person who I am positive would still be living pay check to paycheck at my parents house and self medicating to help my emotional and physical pain. I’d be complaining that I have no money and that life is terrible when in fact if I stopped spending my money on drugs and alcohol and focused more about why I was feeling the way I was feeling and my physical health; I wouldn’t be in the place I was.

I believe the only way as a society we can change and become better is through self awareness. We need to realize that the thoughts we think dictate our lives. The food we feed ourselves can determine our moods and health conditions. The medicine we trust to help make us feel better are generally just a bandaid and a toxic one at that. That the alcohol we drink effects our moods for days and how we treat others and also how we feel about ourselves.That the caffeine we put in our bodies is overall hurting them even, maybe not now, but it definitely is affecting your heart. That the tv we watch to turn off our brains at night is filling our heads with unrealistic expectations and unrealistic desires to be like other people or have more materialistic things.

We need to become more self aware in every aspect of our lives. We need to be aware of what we are putting in our bodies; mentally, physically and emotionally. We need to realize our actions affect us as well as others. We need to become aware that every action has a reaction; it’s in your control.

Self awareness I believe is the key to living an authentic intentional happy and peaceful life. Without being self aware we continue down the same paths that hurt us and hurt others.

My goal, going forward, is to help people become more self aware so we have less damaged people in our world thinking that their lives suck or their stuck living the way they are because that’s just how it’s been.

Your thoughts determine your life. If you think your sick, you become sick. If you think your life sucks, your life will suck. If you think your going to have a bad day, you are going to have a bad day. If you think like is wonderful, you are going to look for the small things that make you smile. If you think more happy thoughts, you become more happy.

Choose wisely because it really is as simple as that.

With love, Krista

Is there such a thing as being mindfully opinionated?

I am an extremely opinionated person and I always have been. It has served me well but it has also gotten me into some trouble as well as sticky situations.

I’ve noticed lately, that when I’m giving my opinion without being asked I contemplate that conversations sometimes for hours. I wonder if I really added anything to that conversation by putting that opinion out there. Or if its my ego that needs to feels as if I contributed to that conversation. I am working on my listening skills, as I believe we all should be doing.

I’m trying to be more present in the moment and hear what people are actually saying before I form a response in my head. I think most of us have a on-going conversation in our heads with ourselves and we often will even do that when someone else is talking to us. We think we know what’s best for them, or the situation, or we dont agree with what they are saying so instead of paying attention to that person’s every word we are already building a response in our heads.

I do this all the time, I will be the first to admit it. Lately though I have been catching myself, more often than not, paying attention to my own inner dialogue vs. Someone’s outer dialogue and I need to bring myself back to the present moment. Which sometimes can be in the middle of the their sentence or story. But that’s the first step; catching yourself doing it.

I recognize that people can really truly tell when the person they are talking with is present in the moment vs if they are in their heads. So going forward, this is something I am truly trying to be better at so I can be there for those people and conversations who really deserve it.

I have all the time in the world to have conversations with myself (though the true goal is to silence those conversations in your own mind) so I promise to try and be more respectful and present with every person I come in contact with. And with being present, I believe I’ll be able to control more of my opinions and only give to those people and situations that call for it. Which overall will help my mental health because I wont be debating all day if what I said was okay, to harsh, not harsh enough, not warranted, or if it could’ve even helped.

“When given the choice to be right or being kind, choose kind” – Wayne Dyer

With love, Krista

Guilt

Guilt is something that I feel like I could’ve had a Ph.D in. I was constantly feeling guilty for my actions in my everyday life. I have since learned to let go of my guilt. I accept what has happened, learn and grow from said thing, and let go of my thoughts and perceptions that are making feel this way. It’s much easier said than done but anything that is worth doing is never easy.

Most people get stuck in guilt for years or even their whole lifetime. It interrupts their daily lives without them even realizing it’s happening. They can’t sleep at night because they are constantly going over conversations in their head, replaying things moment by moment, reliving it in their minds while playing different scenarios of what could’ve happened; they are doing anything but accepting the situation and moving on.

I was this person for years. It nearly destroyed my life. It showed up in ways that most people wouldn’t assume is guilt, and only through working on myself have I discovered that I think guilt was one of the root causes of majority of my problems. Yes I had other problems like my face going numb, migraines, sleeping problems, drinking and drug problems…the list goes on. But I had those problems because of guilt I hadn’t yet realized I was carrying around with me.

Guilt has been something that’s been present in me my whole life, just as it is almost everyone. We our taught from an early age that guilt is okay and it’s okay to guilt others. This needs to stop. We are taught this as children by the adults in our lives who guilt us into doing things for them or for some reason. Some examples may include “eat all of your dinner, there are kids starving in Africa” “what’s wrong with you” “your being to sensitive” ” I do everything for you” “you did great on your test, why can’t you do that all the time” “stop crying right now or you won’t get….” “It’s not that big of a deal” “can you do this for me? fine I’ll just have to do it myself”

These all are examples of guilt. We are shown and taught from our adolescent years that it is okay to be guilted into something and that it is also okay to guilt others. This is something we really need to work on as adults who have influence over smaller children. Even if you don’t have children of your own, the way you talk to any child or adult matters. Your words affect other people who aren’t conscious of the fact that your words are only an opinion and nothing more.

It’s a vicious cycle in our minds that we need to learn to get control over. Another example of guilt that you can put on yourself without realizing is by comparing yourself to others. You feel guilty that your not like this person, guilt that you make the wrong decisions, guilt that you didn’t have control over a situation. We even feel guilt when someone passes away, as if we had control over it.

What we have control over is our actions and our thoughts. If you feel guilty about the mistake you made, evaluate why you made the decision you did that led to your mistake, forgive yourself for making the mistake and know that in the future you will make a conscious decision to make better decisions that you feel good about. It’s all about your thoughts and how you perceive a situation. If you know that each thing that comes at you in life is a lesson that you can grow from; you reframe the way you talk to yourself, your decision making, how you perceive life and the opportunities that come your way.

Everything in life is an opportunity, you just need to figure out what it is that life has brought you and how you are going to react.

With love, Krista

The importance of books

There is nothing better than a book that you can turn to during hard times, like an old friend, and also let it teach you and help you grow at the same time.

Books have changed my life. If it wasn’t for my willingness to learn, be better, grow, understand others, try to understand life, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I am 100% positive of that.

5 years ago I was diagnosed with Bipolar, PTSD, OCD, GAD, and panic disorder. My life flipped completely upside down and I lost who I was before my diagnosis. At one point, I was on 8 different meds prescribed by doctors, drinking, popping opioids and any muscle relaxers I could get my hands on, and I was even taking up to 4 Benadryl a day on top of all that because the doctors told me it would help calm my anxiety. My face would go numb and I wouldn’t be able to feel my nose, I had heart palpitations, I was having constant migraines, I couldn’t keep food in my body, and I was always aware that a panic attack could strike at any time. I was admitted to a mental hospital twice. That was my life.

I am so incredibly proud of where I am today. I am completely unmedicated, I work out, I feed my body with good food and vitamins, I have self-care days, I sleep 7 hours a night, I am an entrepreneur, I feel blessed to be alive everyday single day and I honestly hardly feel anxious these days compared to how I use to feel.What was the thing I contribute to me finding peace in this beautifully chaotic world?

Books, books, and more books!

The one book that fundamentally changed my life?The Secret by Rhonda Bryne.Everything in life is what you make of it and your perception of who you are and how life is supposed to be lived is just that; a perception.

Be the person you always wanted someone to be for you!

Perception vs. Reality

The older I get the more I understand that I, in fact, know nothing. Everything that we learn and know is from the perception that we think we know that thing. For example; every single history book is written from someone’s perception and perspective of what has happened. We learn as children that we are supposed to view those as facts when in fact it is anything but.

The only thing I view as fact is that everything is open-ended to how you perceive it. I’m learning that nothing is as serious as it seems, just as serious as you make it. I find this concept to be utterly fascinating. And while I don’t know anything to be fact, I do have my own assumptions about what is. For example, I believe “The Universe” is indeed a real thing as someone else might call that God, Divine Power, Consciousness, Mother Earth or Higher Power among many other names. That is the one thing I believe to be true and I will continue to pray and thank the universe every single day for blessing me with this beautiful realization.

What is your perception of”facts”? Do you believe in everything or most things you hear or do you question everything you hear and try and make your own assumptions?